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Making Life Work
Introduction
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Module 1a: Needs
Making Transformation Possible
Needs as the Root of Life
Practice #1.1: Reflecting on Your Own Needs
Practice #1.2: From Strategy to Need
Universal Human Needs
Identifying Strategies (7:57)
Motivation and Outcome
Core Values
Module 1b: Practices for Connecting with Needs
Practice #1.3: Going Down a Ladder of Needs
Case Studies: Discovering Our Needs
Practice #1.4: Facets of Self-Connection
Being with Your Needs (2:52)
Module 1c: Judgments
Transforming Judgments
Practice #1.5: Transforming Persistent Judgments
Understanding Judgments (9:19)
Case Studies: Judgments (11:13)
Finding Self-Acceptance (8:21)
Practice #1.6: Mourning and Self-Compassion
Module 1d: Taking Responsibility for Your Actions
Finding Choice
Practice #1.7: Taking Responsibility for Our Actions
Can My Needs Really Be Met? (1:58)
Navigating the Waters of Practice
Module 1 Additional Readings
Module 1 Feedback Survey
Module 2a: Choice
From Reaction to Conscious Response (2:14)
Practice #2.1: Body Awareness
Noticing Our Bodies (2:24)
Why Do We React?
Creating Inner Space
Obstacles to Noticing Our Reactions (6:23)
Module 2b: Habits of Thought
Understanding Habits of Thought
Practice #2.2: Recognizing Thought Habits
What Are We Reacting To? (4:32)
Holding Onto Thoughts (5:51)
Module 2c: Connecting with Your Needs
Returning to Needs
Shifting into Needs Awareness
Self-Empathy: Finding Tenderness
Imagining the Needs of Others
Module 2d: Choosing How to Respond
Practice #2.3: Needs Beneath Our Reactions
Case Study: Sally Revisits Her Breakup
Aiming for a Positive Outcome for All
Taking Responsibility for the Outcome
Choosing Your Words
Reflecting on Choice (5:42)
Module 2 Additional Readings
Our Gift Economy
Module 3a: Empathy
Connecting with Others without Losing Yourself (1:43)
Empathy for Healing and Support
Practice #3.1: Empathy in Personal Relationships
Practice #3.2: Empathy for Collaboration (4:17)
Empathy to Open Your Heart
Practice #3.3: Finding Empathy through a Closed Heart
Empathy to Transcend Differences
Practice #3.4: Empathy through Difference
Module 3b: Empathic Presence and Resources
Practice #3.5: Grounding in Empathic Presence (2:11)
Courage, Care, Focus and Purpose
Mind, Heart, Body and Imagination
Facets of Empathy (6:48)
Practice #3.6: The Facets of Empathy
Module 3c: Shifting Habitual Responses
Transforming Non-Empathic Habits
Practice #3.7: Identifying Non-Empathic Responses
Practice #3.8: Finding Needs behind Your Habits
Practice #3.9: Choosing an Empathic Response
Opening Your Heart to Being Affected (9:06)
Practice #3.10: Grounding in Yourself
Care and Responsibility
Module 3d: Finding Words
Practice #3.11: Finding Words
Finding Words Debrief (9:35)
Adapting to Context
Practice #3.12: "Using Posthearsals"
Module 3 Additional Readings
Module 3 Feedback Survey
Module 4a: Authenticity
Expressing Truth with Care (2:31)
Transcending Dichotomies about Speech
Core Principles of Self-Expression
Words that Match Your Why (15:20)
Practice #4.1: Finding Intention
Expression to Get Something for Ourselves
Expression for Connection
Expression to Contribute
Practice #4.2: One Scenario, Three Intentions
Module 4b: Taking Full Ownership of Your Experience
Self-Responsibility
From Interpretations to Observations (2:04)
From Thoughts to Feelings (2:59)
From Strategies and What’s “Right” to Needs (7:52)
Practice #4.3: Finding Your Needs and Changing Your Story
Module 4c: Connecting to All Your Needs
Reactivity and Care
Finding Care when Unhappy (7:22)
Leading with Intention
Working through Intentions (15:56)
Speaking to a Specific Person
Epilogue: Why Care?
Module 4 Additional Readings
Our Gift Economy
Module 5a: Requests
Asking for All You Want (3:36)
Practice #5.1: Asking for Support
Prohibitions against Asking (5:31)
Crisis of Imagination (1:30)
Fear of Responses (2:21)
Module 5b: The Power to Ask with Flexibility
Learning to Matter (5:04)
Practice #5.2: Healing from Shame
Embracing Vulnerability, Letting Go of Outcome (7:30)
Practice #5.3: Adapting to "No"
Wanting Fully without Attachment
Creating the Freedom to Say "No"
Module 5c: Learning How to Ask
Clarity about What You Want (2:03)
Tying Requests to Needs
Connection and Micro-Agreements
The Dishes Scenario: Finding the Language for Connection Requests (15:26)
Can Words Be "Right?" (3:01)
Module 5 Additional Readings
Module 6a: Collaboration
Finding Solutions That Work for All (1:16)
Transcending Obstacles to Collaboration (7:00)
Transforming Habits of Separation
Practice #6.1: Rehumanizing Others
Practice #6.2: Cultivating “We” Awareness
"Everyone" Includes You
Module 6b: Scarcity and Uncomfortable Emotions
Maneuvering within Habitual Scarcity
Practice #6.3: Scarcity and Reactivity
Shifting from Scarcity Thinking
Befriending Uncomfortable Emotions (4:03)
Module 6c: From Needs to Solutions
Opening Your Heart (5:00)
Connecting with Everyone's Needs (6:02)
Finding Shared Ownership of All the Needs (2:00)
Practice #6.4: Caring about Needs, Not Strategies
In Search of Imaginative Solutions
Module 6d: Hearing and Saying "Yes" and "No"
Finding an Openhearted "No"
Practice #6.5: Finding the Why Behind the “No”
The Tough Situations
Finding an Authentic "Yes"
Practice #6.6: Finding Choice without Capitulating
Staying in Dialogue
Scenarios with "Yes" and "No" (21:22)
Module 6 Additional Readings
Our Gift Economy
End of Course Feedback Survey
Creative Commons Acknowledgements
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